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By Juliana McDonald
Whether a death was sudden or followed a slow decline, dealing with the loss of a loved one is a painful process. It’s important to take time to grieve and avoid putting too much on your plate at one time.
If you’re left to clean out the home of a loved one, you may not even know where to start. We hope to help you navigate through the cleanout process so you hold onto the items and memories most important to you.
Find Documents | Forward Mail | Change Locks | Take a Walk Through | Create a Plan | Start Sorting | Donate or Sell | Get Rid of the Rest | Clean
Check in the safe or in a lockbox for the important documents listed below. You'll need the account numbers on hand when you communicate with these organizations.
Important documents, billing statements and other information should be forward to a different address. Choose a primary caretaker, whether that's you or someone else, to receive the mail and handle any issues that arise.
Pro-Tip: In order to get important mail forwarded, like billing statements, an individual must be the court-appointed executor of the estate.
To stop junk mail from being sent to your deceased loved one, you can file with the Deceased Do Not Contact Registration.
This step is especially important if your loved one lived along and gave house keys to neighbors or outside caretakers. Contact a reputable locksmith to change the locks to keep your loved one's belongings secure as you complete the next parts of the process.
While it may be tempting to dive in and start cleaning out a room or finding those special items you want to keep, it’s important to start slow.
“There’s a lot of pressure when cleaning out a loved one’s home, and the instinct is just to get to work. Skipping the step of pressing pause and touring a space just to see what’s there before anything is permanently touched is important.”
Maeve Richmond | Founder and Coach at Maeve's Method
Taking an initial tour of the house or apartment will help you process and defuse your emotions. Take your time with this. Matt Paxton, Founder of Wayforth explains that “there is no firm timeline on this entire process. Grief does not start, does not end at any time. Period. There’s no right way to do this.”
When a loved one passes away, it’s important to recognize the connection they had to their space and belongings. Take pictures as you walk through each room, and make a note if you find valuable or sentimental items.
Do you need to list the home for sale by a certain date? Or maybe you're visiting from out of state to help your family. If you are in a situation where you are working on a tight timeline, it's time to set a plan. Look at the time you have available outside of work and other responsibilities to set a realistic goal for yourself. Try to account for breaks if you can. It's very common to find a few unexpected items that you'll want to spend a few moments with.
Remember that, in most states, the will must be processed by the court system before anything is cleared out, donated or sold.
Once you have an idea of what’s in each room, it’s time to start the actual estate cleanout process.
Commit to opening every box, emptying every pocket and looking in every cabinet. Many sentimental items, including valuable ones, are often hidden in a safe space. If you start to feel overwhelmed, take a break and come back to it a little later. You don’t want to miss something important and regret it down the road.
As you find photos, place them in a marked storage bin or box to preserve them. These are irreplaceable items.
“Do what is easiest for you first. A list can be very overwhelming for some people, so empower yourself and think ‘What is easiest for me to tackle? Or what can I handle first?’”
Maeve Richmond | Founder and Coach at Maeve's Method
It’s often simplest to start with the pantry or refrigerator. Toss out any expired food, and put what’s usable in a cooler to take home. If you cannot take what’s left, call a food rescue organization to pick it up. Picking an unemotional area with black-and-white answers for what’s no longer needed helps get the ball rolling.
Once you’ve started the main job of cleaning out the house, invite other relatives to help ease the process for you. But because emotions are high, be cautious of how many people are in the house at one time.
“Bring help into the rooms that are difficult. There’s nothing wrong with bringing a friend in to help for an afternoon. Limit that to two hours. It should not be every night – you have to take a break.”
Matt Paxton | Founder, Wayforth
Ask a few close family members or friends first, and keep other relatives in the loop about what you are doing. In the largest open area, designate zones for items to donate, sell and toss. You should also set up a zone or room for sentimental items that either you or your relatives would like to keep.
“When someone passes and there’s a relative who hasn’t been involved, they often will want to feel connected. It’s important to hear them and say that you will keep an eye out for items that they might like to have. That’s always a good place to start.”
Maeve Richmond | Founder and Coach at Maeve's Method
Assign each family member a specific room or closet, and make sure they understand all the sorting zones.
Items left unclaimed by family members can either be sold or donated as long as they’re in good condition.
If you are looking to sell anything valuable such as jewelry and art, hire an appraiser to ensure you get the item’s full value. A professional team can help you to determine the right pricing for items like furniture and antiques, then attract customers to your estate sale with marketing efforts. If you only need to sell a few items, consider using Facebook Marketplace, eBay or another online option.
After the estate sale, you may be left with a few items that didn't sell, along with other items had ready to donate from the sorting process. There are a handful of organizations that accept donations. Research charities and non-profits in your area.
Matt Paxton recommends the following charities when you have extra belongings to donate.
Anything that can’t be sold or donated should be recycled or thrown away. Depending on how much is left, it may be necessary to rent a home dumpster to quickly clear out the house. This step in the process can be emotional, but remember these items likely weren’t the most important to your loved one.
After everything is removed, deep clean the entire house and do a final walk-through. Open up the closets and cabinets to make sure nothing was left behind, and take the time you need to say goodbye. At this time, you can begin the process of listing the home or hiring a realtor.
These tips should give you an idea of where to get started, but you don’t have to go it alone. There are organizations and resources available to help every step of the way, including professional organizers or life coaches.
“I think having a neutral party is a great step in the cleaning process,” explains Maeve. “It all depends on how much time you have and the speed at which you need to make decisions in the moment. If you are someone whose head keeps spinning with emotions, then have a professional come in and ease the process.”
Have you cleaned out a home after the death of a loved one? Please feel free to share your story or any advice in the comments.
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